Friday, 19 April 2013

This Thing Called Blogging ... And Life

Some realisations come with time. The more I spend time with the camera I feel more confident and push away thoughts of what others might have to say about the photographs. It comes with time I guess. Initially I would use Photoshop for minor colour tone and brightness adjustments, I don't care how much manipulation I do now as long as the end result is exactly what I had in mind or close to it. It is easy to let feedback limit your idea of what your capabilities should be and how much you dish out, but it is refreshing to shake it off and push that boundary anyway. As an unspoken protocol dictates we must not divulge how much we charge for the various promotions of brands to others. Why? Because apparently to some it is tacky to talk about how much you earn, right? I say, "Boohaki!" (yes that was a F.R.I.E.N.D.S reference). It will be considered shameless bragging and it would be rather annoying if you go around telling everyone you know how much/little you earn but if anyone personally approaches you for help with advertisers you should help without being a d-bag. I have received as well as shared my knowledge freely. And this goes for every other aspect of blogging. If you get an invitation to cover an event then let them know of the other bloggers in your town that you know of and would be interested in attending.
a)It is the case of the more the merrier. I have made friends who share my passion for fashion/photography/blogging and we meet up from time to time and share more about life than blogging. I don't need to watch what I say or do as I feel comfortable in their company.
b) There have been events I got invited to because one of these people let them know of me/my blog and vice versa. Isn't that one of the perks of blogging, being able to attend events you won't get a chance to otherwise? And you were going to get deprived just because the PR person didn't know you existed.
But building a system of people you can count on is not restricted to just blogging. I am not a big people person and often expose an ugly argumentative side that has helped me burn many a bridge in the past. I often questioned my mother as to how she  manages to know and be loved by as many people as she does wherever she goes, some times frowning upon it and she always said, "You never know who will come in to be there for you." I agree with her now and I try to play nice with even those who I feel don't like me much. We all need someone to at least be able to talk to and no matter how independent you are, how kick-assly self-reliant you are you would realise how important it is to have someone/anyone/a group of anyones you need to talk to when you are really down in the gutter, from where even the stars get obliterated with hazy fumes of depression. Maybe having lost someone recently is making me talk this way. But all I know for sure is that I would always have someone to talk to, to turn to as long as my best friend lives.
I like knowing that I have made a few more friends thanks to blogging  around whom I don't need to watch myself too carefully. I really don't know how to wrap this post up. I am just going to leave it here. And hope to come back soon with something with a more cheerful ending hopefully. After all there is too much gloom all around and we all need escape routes to get away from it all. My blog is my biggest refuge whenever I need to get away. I am going out to get wet in the rain with my best friend now. Pray that the clouds don't run away before drenching our hearts.

bidding adieu with this unimpressive portrait of blue


16 comments:

  1. I followed you already on GFC and Bloglovin ;) Kisses Dear!


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  2. This is such a beautiful post. I m speechless.

    Aditi
    So-Saree
    www.sosaree.blogspot.in

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  3. Blogging for my is a hobby, something I do for fun and I enjoy it a lot.

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  4. I'm sure glad to be one of your new-found friends, girl!!! :D
    And yes..it always helps to have someone you can fall back upon when you down....and even when you are up! :)

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  5. I've always believed in sharing. A PR guy gave me a lot of work and asked if I knew of any other bloggers that might be interested in writing posts. I gave him about 10 names. They were happy! He was happy! I felt good! But unfortunately there are some that are selfish and won't share a damn thing. LOL
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    1. i know how awesome you are kim..i talked about advertisers with you only and you were so free..not only that when there was a huge power shortage here you tweeted me from there to know if i am doing okay. that matters to me. i am glad i know you..

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  6. I think is beautiful that u share this with us ; )

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  7. This is the best post i hav read in your blog. Very much 'dil se' wala post

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    1. i understand what the kind of posts you enjoy. i would like to believe there are some other "dil se" posts under the label "thoughts" on my blog. as i told you some of my posts are personal, not all. it will never will be that way.

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  8. You're beautiful Debi! Love how you're so honest. I definitely think this is one of your best posts because it connects with me on many levels. :) I loveee how you expressed your emotions because this is something many people don't say, but you accepted it and it was amazing reading such a heartfelt post.

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    Sonshu
    www.thesonshu.com

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  9. Deaar debi, i must say that you are totally right!! I quote you wprd by word!

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  10. Great post

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  11. What a great post! I am also really happy I made new frinds thanks to blogging!

    Style Without Limits
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  12. This is a great post! I think you put into words what a lot of us are thinking!
    xo
    girlintheyellowdress.com

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  13. you are so honest and down to earth..i do agree with letting other bloggers know..like you i wouldn't have made the lovely friends in kolkata (anpriya and soumi)without blogging.

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